01-27-17 The Stop

I saw him when I passed by the first time and made a mental note that he was there. I had a quick errand to run moments from my house, and I knew there would be no way to avoid him on the way back. Hopefully he would be gone when I returned.

On my return trip I saw him at once, and held my breath as I passed him. I’ve had a headlight out for the better part of a week, but with the rough week we had, I never got a chance to deal with it. I checked my speed, confident he at least wouldn’t catch me on that. Once past, I kept checking my rear view to see if he would move. A car was about a hundred yards behind me, and if he would just catch up, maybe I’d be OK. 

But no luck, I saw the black and white cruiser pull out from its position. Here we go. The kids had been arguing and screaming for the past few minutes and I let them continue as I watched the cruiser get closer and closer. My speed was still good.

After about eight blocks, the lights turned on. Sigh. I pulled over and waited for him to come to my window. Finally out of curiosity the kids became silent. I rolled down my window. 

Do you know you have a headlight out? I nodded that I did. And one of your break lights? That I didn’t know about, but I guess it was one light  too many and he asked for my license and registration. He seemed in a hurry as he took my license, and opting to not wait for the registration, he rushed back to his cruiser. Ninety seconds later he was back at my window handing me my license and a printed warning. I have to go! He said urgently as he pushed them towards me. He ran back to his car and drove off. 

A warning. Thank goodness. With the van moving again, the kids peppered me with questions the rest of the way home, wondering why he had been so mean to pull us over when I hadn’t done anything wrong. 

I was quick to correct them. He was right to pull us over. It’s his job to keep people safe. 

Officers put their lives on the line everyday, often for people would never return the favor. I’m grateful our community has a strong, positive police presence, and a warning about headlights seems a small inconvenience to pay.

Thank you to those who serve!  

01-26-17 My Boy

This boy will be five in a few short months. He is my handsome pants and my go to cuddle buddy. He plays with my ear lobes, calls me his girl, and tells me he’s never going to get married because he wants to live with me forever. I know one day he’ll change his mind, but for now I’ll enjoy the machine gun kisses and his perfect little arms wrapped around my neck!

01-24-17 Thank you!

Thank you so much for your kind words and prayers. Today’s appointment went very well, and I was pleased at how encouraging, positive, and helpful the doctor was. She was able to clarify a great many things for me and explained everything in a way that was completely understandable. Overall it was a very good experience.

I apologize that this post is so short, but my house is incredibly quiet at the moment and I want to embrace the silence! Goodnight, dear friends and once again, thank you!

01-23-17 The Unseen Ones

 

I’m scared.

I can admit that here, right?

Tomorrow I would have been 19 weeks pregnant. But instead of having a routine prenatal appointment, or having my gender-revealing ultrasound, I am finally having the follow up appointment with my own doctor. I am now 86 days post surgery.

I’m hoping to get answers to long dormant questions, and perhaps find clarification on some aspects the surgeon left unclear.

Honestly, I don’t know if this will be the start of a new journey or the end of an old one, and the not knowing makes tonight feel heavy.

Even in my self-induced bubble, it has been hard to avoid the many articles and pictures of so many women around the world marching for the right to stricken their babies from their wombs, as there are those of us that wish with all our might that we could restore our children to our own- the ones whose heartbeats never lead to breath, the unseen ones. They are still very much our children and pain of their loss will always linger.

So if it isn’t too much to ask, may I burden you for a prayer that tomorrow will come softly- and that whatever information I obtain, I may be able to prayerfully and thoughtfully apply it to the benefit of my family. Thank you!

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The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;
    may the name of the Lord be praised.” Job 1:21b

 

 

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01-21-17 Now we hunker down…

So remember yesterday when I told you I had only gotten three hours of sleep? I was so happy to have Tim at home last night, and while he was feeling under the weather and went to bed early, I felt confident about taking some medicine and going to bed. No sooner had I swallowed my Tylenol PM (the pills probably hadn’t even reached my stomach yet) I heard Big E crying upstairs. I headed up and as I neared his bedroom I heard a gush of liquids.

Oh no… 

I open the door and there is vomit everywhere… the floor, his bedding, his body. And it’s still coming. Both of us traumatized I moved him into the bathroom and cleaned him up. Then I cleaned up his room and remade his bed. I got him in bed with a bowl next to his head. As I closed the door I hoped it was a fluke and he’d sleep through the night.

Well dear friends, it wasn’t a fluke. 

Poor Big E was vomiting every twenty minutes without fail from 10:30 last night until 5:30 this morning. EVERY TWENTY MINUTES!!! 

Ugh, it was disgusting and the poor child was miserable. And so tired. He’d throw up, hand me the bowl to rinse it and when I would return to his room he’d be half asleep again. I’d make my way back to my couch-bed after thoroughly washing and hand sanitizing and then hand sanitizing myself again and crawl under the covers, only to hear him calling me again.

So, needless to say, I didn’t actually get any sleep last night. At around 7am, Tim got up to take the day shift with the kids and I crawled into bed, where I spent the majority of the day. By this evening Big E was finally starting to perk up. He’s definitely on the mend. 🙂

But now we hunker down until this thing runs its course. I’m praying that if it hits anyone else, it does it soon so we can just get it over with, but preferably it would be wonderful if we could just be done!

01-20-17 Finally Friday

I’ve been battling a cold for the better part of a week. There’s nothing to be done about it but to wait it out. It has all the classic symptoms- a runny nose, a sore throat, etc. The unfortunate reality is that sore throats make it very difficult for me to sleep. No sooner do I start to drift off, then a sharp stabbing pain forces me awake. I’ve tried a variety of remedies, but the only thing that really works is to pretty much knock myself out- This means Tylenol PM, or Benadryl, or maybe alcohol.

Last night I needed something badly, but my husband was away and I was hesitant to take anything that might make it difficult to respond to the children if they needed something. So I opted to just take a couple of regular Tylenols and call it a night.

Unfortunately, that didn’t do the trick and I spent the better part of the night on the cusp of sleep, but not actually attaining it. In all, I managed 3 non consecutive hours. So when my alarm went off at 5:30 this morning my brain and my body screamed in revolt. I stumbled through something that vaguely mirrored my morning routine and finally got the kids up.

“Please be helpful this morning. Mommy didn’t get much sleep last night and I don’t feel well.” I was able to utter as I handed them their clean clothes.

“Oh, that happens to me sometimes! ” C said as she sat up.  “I’ll tell you what I do.” She leaned in close in preparation of her big reveal, “I lay in my bed. And I close my eyes. And I just lay there… And I fall asleep.” I blinked at her. “Maybe you should try that next time too!!” she concluded proudly.

If it was only that easy, kid!

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Friday night ice cream party!

 

01-19-17 Overworked Imagination

I have an overactive imagination. I always have. It’s both a blessing and a curse- A blessing when I want to make up a story, a curse when I am laying in bed at night and I hear a sound outside my door. Often when my mind starts in overdrive, it chases rabbit trails that lead to darker and scarier rabbit trails. I have the ability to work myself up into an anxiety induced frenzy that’s hard to back out of.

I know this about myself.

hate this about myself.

This is why I have had to mentally check out of certain activities in my life… here are four places that I have chosen to not give food to my overworked imagination.

1- Politics. I grew up in a politically minded family. It was a frequent topic of conversation around the dinner table and at family gatherings. I used to be very vocal, but as I have grown older I realize that I am in little position to actually change the big issues. I’m not saying there aren’t people that can, I just know that those people aren’t me. And besides, a politician, or a political party will never have the ability to save me (or us.) They will aways fail us. Am I being a cynic? Perhaps. Or maybe I’ve decided to focus my attention on where I can make a difference, which is within my own family and with my own children.

2- Scary Movies.  I used to love scary movies. Not gory movies, I can’t stand those. I don’t need to see entrails or missing limbs. But I was totally okay with things popping out and scaring the audience. The more the better, I loved the suspense. But then I started replaying those sequences and inserting myself and suddenly I was seeing problems in real life that would never have crossed my mind had I not seen them onscreen. So I stopped watching those things. I don’t need my imagination to feed off of doomsday scenarios.

3- Scary Books.  I love to read. At least I think I do. I rarely have time these days, with working full-time and raising all the savages, but I’m relatively certain that love still remains. Like the movies before, I loved scary stories. But even more so than a movie, I can get so lost in a book that I am completely living it. If it is snowing in the book, my body will feel cold. And when I come out of a book, I have to readjust myself to real life. So if I can get that involved in a story, then I need to make sure that it is one that isn’t going to send my overactive imagination off the rails.

4- Pinterest. When I first discovered Pinterest I thought it was amazing. And the more time I spent there, the more I realized that I didn’t measure up. My kids’ parties weren’t perfectly planned, my kids’ snacks weren’t perfectly trimmed, and my house was clearly not immaculate. And again, my imagination took off to all the things I could be and have if I was different. If I was better. To be honest, that’s too heavy a burden to bear and one that I am not called to carry.

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Baby E showing off his teeth!

A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.  Luke 6:45 (NIV)

 

 

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01-18-17 The long awaited liberation of my finger!

Six weeks is a long time- a really long time when your dominant hand isn’t working properly! Thankfully the broken finger didn’t interfere with my ability to edit, but it got in the way of just about everything else- from washing dishes, washing my own hair, chopping vegetables, using scissors, my handwriting, etc.

Well, today was the big reveal.

The doctor took off the splint and there it was, my precious finger, looking somewhat bedraggled after six weeks in the splint. The finger is still slightly swollen, and unfortunately, still slightly bent. The doctor had warned me several visits ago that it would likely not ever go back to normal, but I guess I hadn’t prepped myself that it would look different from here on out.

Also, it doesn’t move. Which makes sense because it was immobile for six weeks. So I have to start physical therapy on it in a few weeks. He said I should regain most of my mobility. We’ll see exactly what ‘most’ means as we move forward.

So while I am bummed that it won’t return to its former glory,  I am thankful that I can start working with it!